By Oscar Chemiak
I was surprised by Sandi's initial
intolerance toward gay, lesbian and bisexual lifestyles. I
know Sandi has his areas of naivety, but sometimes, I just
shake my head. I guess like all prejudices, Sandi's
reaction to the whole gay/lesbian/bisexual issue was based
on ignorance. It's easy to fear something we don't
understand or have no exposure to. Before you make a judgement
call, it's important to have all the facts and understand
what you're talking about - every good reporter knows
that and every good human as well.
What does it mean to be 'gay'?
Gay Term used to define a man who is sexually
oriented to the same sex – man being physically and sexually attracted to another man.
Lesbian Term used to define a woman who
is sexually oriented to the same sex – woman being physically
and sexually attracted to another woman.
Having a sexual orientation to either sex. To be attracted
sexually to both men and women.
Okay, so now you know what it means to be gay, you know,
technically, as in the words associated with the deed. But
how do you know if you personally are gay? This is something
that a lot of teens worry about, as they're developing
into their sexual selves. Whether you are straight or gay
isn't a choice, it's just the way you are. We
all have different things that we just instinctively like
and dislike. Sexuality is no different. Some people are attracted
to the same sex, some to the opposite sex and some to either
If you're wondering if you might be gay, ask yourself
- Are you often attracted to members of the same sex?
- Do you frequently have sexual fantasies about members
of the same sex?
- Do you feel that there are just some ways that you don't
fit in with your peers – you may love the same music,
clothes and bands, but when the conversation turns to talking
about crushes, you just don't have a lot to say?
- Do you feel bored or 'not into' dates with
the opposite sex?
- Have you ever suspected that you might be gay, lesbian
Of course, this test is not a guaranteed way of determining
your sexuality – let's fact it, we all feel certain
things for certain people at different times in our lives
– that's okay. However, if you found that you
answered 'yes' to most of these questions and
that you feel these feelings more often than not, you may
be gay, lesbian or bisexual. If you are gay, remember, you
are not alone, millions of people are gay and although it's
not easy to be open about being gay and people are not always
accepting, there are support systems out there for young people.
No matter what some peoples attitudes are, times are changing
and people are more educated and open about sexuality and
what are often viewed as 'alternative' lifestyles.
Be true to yourself, because you are the one you have to live
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