I never realized how easy it is to be bullied through the internet. Unfortunately, bullying is pretty common these days, and it’s getting increasingly worse. But when I think about bullying, I usually think about people name calling or pushing other people around. I never thought that bullying could occur over the internet.
When someone started sending emails in my name, I thought it was a joke at first. But I soon realized that someone was out to make me think poorly of myself, and to make me look bad to others. That’s when I started learning more about bullying and what to do.
Bullying is any behavior meant to hurt or control another person. There are different forms of bullying like hitting or forcing someone to do unpleasant things, calling someone names or using mean words to hurt them. This behavior can make the victim feel trapped and unsafe, sometimes even suicidal. There have been reported cases of teens killing themselves over being bullied or even being murdered by their bully.
Internet or cyber bullying seems to becoming more and more common. It’s just as devastating to the victim as physical bullying or being called names to their face. Using email, text messages or the internet to purposely make a person feel badly about themselves or to look badly to everyone else is a form a bullying.
If you are being bullied, here are a couple of things you can do to help yourself. First, tell an adult that you’re being bullied, your parents, teachers or coaches. Remember you are not alone in this, as your bully probably has other victims they terrorize. Be brave and stay calm, a bully wants a reaction from you. If you don’t give them the reaction they want, they might get bored and stop on their own.
The best defense you can have against a bully is to be confident and happy with yourself. The less reward you give them, the more likely they’ll get tired of pushing you around. Tell them in front of others that what they’re doing is mean and stupid and just walk away. Most bullies want attention, and they want to look cool in front of others. By degrading you they feel superior, so don’t let them. If their victim speaks up and their audience doesn’t think their actions are cool, then they won’t likely continue.
Remember, bullying is not a normal part of growing up, and everyone has the right to be treated with respect. No one has the right to attack you regularly for no reason other than to make him or herself feel better. Don’t try to go though something like this alone, because we can all use support and friendship when things are rough. Also, don’t let this happen to someone else, because it could be you the next time. Bullies are always looking for their next victim. Don’t let them find one.