by Zoey Jones
It’s funny how you can think of yourself as having such a hard life and spend so much time feeling sorry for yourself, just because things aren’t going exactly the way you would like them to. Then you find somebody who actually has real problems to deal with. I won’t deny that I’ve been in a bit of a funk lately; my parents splitting up last year, being shuffled from house to house, and now finding out that I have a half brother or sister on the way whose mother I don’t even know! All of these things started piling up and I kind of felt like they were smothering me. Then I met Alex and she made me realize that, compared to what some people have to deal with, my little insecurities about my mom and dad really aren’t that big of a deal.
When Alex’s mother decided to take her away from her father she must have been afraid. Although I don’t agree with the way her mother handled the situation, I can see how somebody might think that this was the only solution. She was only doing in her heart, what she thought was best for her child. In almost all child abduction cases it’s a family member or a close friend of the family who commits the crime. Every case is different, but most of the time when a parent abducts a child it’s because they’ve lost custody and are afraid of never seeing them again.
The sad thing about these cases is that the children are too young to make their own decisions. The parents can say whatever they want because for the most part they think they are doing what’s best for the child, but should Alex’s mom have had the right to decide that she should never know her father? Depending on what kind of person he was back then, I don’t know. But people change sometimes. He may have cleaned himself up and forgotten about his abusive self. I think for her mother to ignore that this might be possible and continue to assume the worst is selfish.
I tried talking to Alex about some of this stuff on the way back from Calgary, but it was clear that she wasn’t really up for it. I can understand that too; it’s got to be a total shock to find out that your life, as you’ve always known it, has pretty much been based on a lie.
I think now that I see how difficult and confusing some people’s lives can be it makes me realize that my own situation could be much worse. I also hope that I can help Alex out in some way. We all have our ups and downs in life, but no matter what’s going on or how crappy things start to get, it’s helpful to have friends who can help you through the hard times. I hope I can be that kind of friend to Alex.