by Jack Sinclair
I feel like a bit of a jerk now that Zoey knows how much I think about sex. I know that we made up and everything is fine now, but still… having her know that it’s on my mind all the time is kind of embarrassing.
I think the reason I’m so anxious to ‘do it’ is because I just want to get the whole thing over with. Zoey was right when she said that whenever we talk about anything, whatever it’s about, it’s really about when we’re going to have sex. So really, if we’d had sex by now it would already be in the past, and I would be able to obsess about other things like making her happy or recording my CD.
That’s the real reason I want to get it over with, so that we can move on with the relationship. But on the other hand, there are all of the responsibilities that go with sleeping with somebody. You know, the stuff we’d rather not think about. Nobody (almost nobody) stays a virgin forever. Eventually you are going to have sex with somebody; the thing to remember is that once the sex is over there are even more things to worry about. I’ve always thought that when it came to sex, girls sort of got the short end of the stick (no pun intended). Sure both men and women have an equal chance of getting an STD, but if you don’t use contraceptives and she gets pregnant it’s a whole new set of demands, and the bottom line is that she’s the one who has to go through with childbirth. That’s way worse for her than it is for you. Sure, a reliable guy would do the honourable thing and stay with the girl during childbirth and help raise the baby, but there are a lot of non-honourable guys out there who would pick up and leave as soon as they heard they had a shorty on the way.
In my opinion, if you’re not ready to deal with every possible outcome of having sex, then you’re probably not ready to have sex in the first place. I think that’s what Zoey is going through, and if she wants to wait then I have to respect that decision. Maybe I haven’t thought enough about what could possibly happen after the sex is over. And because of the reasons I’ve just laid out, maybe I shouldn’t be rushing this decision either.