by Jack Sinclair
I know that for a lot of us, beating loneliness can seem impossible. Feeling detached from everything and everyone around you is a lot more common than you might think. Fortunately, that sense of isolation can be beaten and I'm here to give you a few tips on how to do it.
First off, don't assume that feeling down is going to be completely without cause or that you just need to “smarten up” as my grade seven teacher used to say. See your doctor and find out whether there is a medical basis for how you're feeling.
After that, follow these suggestions as a way to beat the blues:
- Don't sit there, DO something…
- If your friends aren't calling, then call them.
- If you have no interests to pry you out of your rut, then find a hobbie or become a volunteer.
- Read a book that has positive messages. It may seem cool to be all ‘whatever…' and indifferent to everything around you, but that eventually grows old.
- Get physically active. You can't lounge on the couch playing video games day after day and feel like you're in touch with the world.
- Approach life with some humour. So what if you tripped over your shoelace as you ran onto the basketball court? It doesn't make you less worthy as a human being. It maybe just means you should tie your shoes a little better.
- Don't make excuses about why you can't do something, take a risk and do it. (Excluding anything dangerous, stupid or illegal).
Finally, and I can't believe I'm going to say this given I run my own website, but here it is: the internet is a great communication tool, but it can also turn into a crutch. Don't make it your whole world, because nothing's ever going to replace having real and immediate relationships in your life. Reach out to somebody. It'll make your day better, maybe it'll make their day better and you just might find the black fog lifting to reveal a little ray of light.
Live and be happy.